How to pick up girls in the salsa scene

I think it`s pretty interesting how the social dynamic is far different in salsa than at regular clubs in Toronto.
It`s a fact that most men take salsa to meet people-notably women-whereas women salsa to exercise, dance for fun and hope to make friends. I say it`s a fact because I ran a survey for 2 years on my website and discovered these interesting stats.


Lots of men in the real world spread the word to their male clan that salsa is a great place to meet women.
They hurry to salsa clubs and see before them men of all ages dancing with attractive women.

`Non-salsa` men can see that partner dancing is like any other sport: technical. And without the proper technique to lead a lady into fantasy world, most men will find themselves to be completely inadequate.

In order to overcome these lack of skills and inadequacy on the salsa dance floor, men typically resort to the talking tactic, in hopes of standing one more chance with any woman. They ask if she wants a drink, if she came with anyone, if she has a boyfriend, if he can get her number.

On the first day? In the first month? Big mistake!

Almost immediately she will raise her eyebrows, possibly walk away, and tell her friends not to dance with you... because if you're picking up, then you are definitely NOT a dancer. Game over.

It will be worse if you try dancing with her first, then ask her for her number!

Note that he makes himself vulnerable by TRYING to dance in front of other ladies on the dance floor who will take note and make sure to avoid him.

Suddenly, looking like Brad Pitt is not such a great attention grabber...so how did 50-year old, receeding hair-line, no defined muscles, really short dude over there, get a dance with THAT bunny?

Simple. He knows the dance technique and holds off asking her questions. Because in salsa, you don't have too many conversations, unless it's about the last dance event, workshop, congress or concert...or who is an amazing dancer. He also makes sure he goes out in groups on 'collective' dates, until he's really really sure. Beware! Salsa is addictive, and will become your paradise, so think twice before you date a girl in the salsa scene: should it not go so well, you don't want to have to compromise your good times for her. It's a pretty small scene!

The morale of the story is this: Yes there are a lot of women in the salsa scene so yes, you can meet a lot of them. However, in order to befriend them let alone date them, you`ll need to get some serious salsa lessons, and refrain from using pick up lines, or you`ll lose before you even started winning. Concentrate on a different set of skills like leading her effectively, even if you only learn 3 smooth moves. Women will line up for you and beg you for more! Turn a negative (dancing??me??) into a positive: Since partner dancing is one of the few remaining areas women agree on to have the man lead, take full advantage of being the man!

The salsa world is a whole new paradigm: May the best dancer win.



SalsaSteph
www.GoDanceMambo.com